Next to you, there are people like this, maybe they are not equal to anyone, maybe the talent is not outstanding, but in them they exude an indescribable attraction, making you want to get closer, want to shake off the defense, to associate with them. So, in order to build strong relationships, what do people need to actively train themselves?
A person, from the outside to the inside, can be divided into 5 tiers: General, ability, temperament, dignity and character.
The corresponding qualities are also divided into 5 levels: Appearance, talent, character, kindness and dignity. These 5 qualities are both something for us to recognize others and an inner thing that needs to be cultivated for a long time.
1. START WITH APPEARANCE
People, who don’t tend to love beauty. But if they were heroic, the ancients would not judge on the ugliness, but on the temperament.
During the Three Kingdoms period, there was a time when Cao Cao needed to meet the Xiongnu messenger, found himself short in stature, the general was not outstanding, he let Cui Gui pretend to be himself, and he himself held a d.a.o stand at his side.
When the Xiongnu messenger returned, Cao Cao secretly asked the messenger, “How do you see Wei Wang?”
The messenger replied:
The great king was solemn, and moved gracefully, but the person standing next to him with the sword had a heroic aura.
Appearance is innate, we have no choice.
But when it comes to overall appearance, appearance is not in the first place, the first place should be temperament and charisma.
So where does temperament and charisma come from? Comes from aesthetics, from life experience, from knowledge in the head, and morality in the mind. Your temperament hides the paths you’ve traveled, the books you’ve read, and the people you’ve loved.
How do I build a strong relationship?
2. RESPECTED BY TALENT
People who are truly talented are humble people. Everyone has a knack for shortness, there are points that others are not equal to.
It’s important to find out where your forte lies, what you’re best at, and then go and develop it consciously.
Life is a road, how long the wooden panels you have in your hands, how long you will build a bridge there, you will cross the wide river to it, and this also determines how far you go. This path is the infinite path.
Hearing that Xia Zhiyi had just met had already admired Li Bai’s talent, the admiration and appreciation of that talented person was a respect.
Talent and wisdom are really a kind of knowledge. The attraction of talented people comes from abundance, modesty, and an elegant temperament exuding from the inside out.
Such a person, respectable, worthy of association.
3. GET ALONG FOR CHARACTER
Personality, half heavenly birth, half nurture.
There is no definite definition of so-called good character, in simple terms, if you want others to love you, take out a piece of paper, write down the personalities of 10 friends you like, and then make it yours, which is good character.
Animals meet by species, people divide in flocks. People with suitable personalities can easily play with each other, share with each other.
Kindness helps you expand and maintain every relationship
Suitable for almost everyone, this takes a lot of training and caution.
There are people who, although not outstanding in appearance, exude an attractiveness that makes others feel comfortable, makes others feel like making friends and approaching.
Being with such people, it feels like listening to a soothing piece of music, drinking a warm cup of tea, quietly watching the flower gradually bloom, inside a peaceful happiness.
To be kind is to be kind to others, to be kind to others, to bring joy to oneself and others, so, the ancients said, kindness is a treasure, spent a lifetime, an honest person, a blessing exists in one life after another.
Li Qingtong, also known as The Great Master who used to be a music teacher, once went to class, one student sat down to read another book, another student spit indiscriminately. After school, Li Qingtong invited the two students to stay, and he used a very gentle voice to tell them that next time not to read or spit indiscriminately in class.
When the two students were about to argue, Li Qingtong immediately bowed to them, and the two students blushed.
Only kindness can make a lasting impact, when in a person’s heart there is honesty, the dust and dust has soon dissipated, leaving only the l.i.nh h.oh.n equal and worthy of respect.
When honesty meets kindness, the most beautiful flower in the world blooms.
5. SUSTAINABILITY FOR HUMAN DIGNITY
To applaud a person is to applaud his dignity. The ancients believed that a person needs to “establish virtue, establish merit, establish language”, in which, “establish virtue” is in the first place.
Before we want to do anything, we need to learn how to be human first. People with good character, natural aura emits, no matter where they are, wherever they go, they will always glow.
People with good dignity are thoughtful people who forgive others, empathize with others, their attraction comes from abundance, humility, warmth from the inside out.
People with good dignity are intelligent people, always speak rationally, speak in moderation, each sentence makes others feel comfortable, in the need to have rein, solve problems wisely.
Sometimes, just one look, one action can make the other person feel warmth.
Starting with appearance, respect for talent, compatibility for character, long-term for kindness, sustainability for dignity, only when you follow this path, you will meet the person who deserves the most connection among the rush of people and can also make the most meaningful choices among thousands and thousands of turns of life.
Dear Friends,
We always want to take control of our lives and control what happens to us, but life always has unpredictable surprises. If you want to achieve what you want, learn to give today.
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